use xmpp

if you want to hide your IP or location then use TOR

“discussing privacy on discord” that should be a joke anyways i created privacy@conference.jabbers.one so join if you want

i dont think anyone using google services is “privacy conscious”

thats actualy one of the reasons i stopped using matrix - synapse kept crashing my server lol

but i should also mention that XMPP servers have less documentation/tutorials, i spent an entire week just to get prosody to work as i wanted it to

i would argue that matrix is not decentralized enough (almost everybody is on matrix.org)

also all popular XMPP clients (conversations, gajim etc.) supports OMEMO and OpenPGP/PGP out of the box

just dont use those services? even if you find a way to bypass this, you wont get anything out of it, they will still collect all of your data such as your location, device information etc.